To The Single Mom On Mothers Day

Dear Single Mom,

I have been thinking of you all week-long.

As the day gets closer, I can’t help but remember you.

Mothers Day may be a mixed day for you, I know. I was a single mom for almost five years. My sister was for seven, and my mother has been a single mom for almost the entirety of her four children’s lives.

Mothers Day can be an awkward holiday for the single mom.

Without a husband, without a dad…who will pamper you, encourage your children to let you sleep in, make you breakfast, and shower you with gifts?

It’s unfair. You deserve these things as much, if not more, than any other mom.

There may also a part of you that feels bad for your child on Mothers Day. You wish they had someone to help them with the crazy gift they dream of giving you. You worry that your sons might grow up not really knowing how to care for their wives. Or that your daughters won’t know how to receive and allow their husbands’ care.

It hurts to feel sadness and guilt, on a day that is supposed to be about celebrating you.

Maybe you feel angry, wounded, left out, not enough.

Maybe you have a great “support system” and love them dearly. But at the end of the day, after the barbecue they invited you to, as grateful as you are, you still go home to it being all on you.

Maybe you are like my mom, and have gone a few Mothers Days without your children really being old enough to remember to do anything anyway. The day passes, year after year,  just like any other.

To The Single Mom On Mothers Day

The most difficult part about being a single mom for me was the intense pressure of responsibility.

It was all on me – providing, nurturing, caring for, teaching, disciplining – it felt like there was no safe place to just be.

Being a single mom can be crushing.

So for Mother’s Day this year, I want to gently, lovingly say – You are not alone.

Even if you have absolutely no help…

Even if you have been a widow since your child was a baby…

Even if your children’s father left you without any involvement on his part…

You are not alone.

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For Mother’s Day this year, I hope you get some rest.

I hope you get a sweet handmade card or craft from school.

I hope the people who love you, see you and shower you with attention.

I hope your children give you an extra hug, sweet snuggles, and plenty of smiles.

I hope you splurge a little, and see a movie or get a manicure. Bring the kids. The other ladies at the salon will understand, and even if they don’t, that’s on them – it is Mother’s Day after all. If nothing else, serve the meals you like (no chicken fingers) and bake your own cake. Let the kids decorate it  (but trust me, don’t leave them alone with the sprinkles).

And even if none of this happens, I hope that deep down, you would hear me, would believe me when I say –

You are a momma. You are so very special and important and powerful.

I am celebrating you this weekend.

There is no one like you in your child’s life. You can do this. You will do this.

Happy Mother’s Day.

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To The Single Mom On Christmas

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  1. felesha webb says:

    Wow very touching. Thank you. My son is 15 months old, I’m a single mom. The way you put things in this article, I never looked at it this way. I’m proud to be a single mom, it’s hard sometimes, but definitely worth it. Once again thanks.

    1. Happy Mothers Day, Felesha!

  2. Wonderful post – as a single mom for close to 20 years, I can relate. Hope you have a Happy Mother’s Day.

    1. Happy Mothers Day, Vickie!

  3. Thank you shawna. I have never read something like that before. I am a single mom. Trying hard every day. Going home alone. Stressing over bills alone. And I’m here with my baby. Some nights crying to sleep because I just want someone with me that cares. And I know God does and that its just the devil that makes me feel so isolated. It gets to me sometimes. Thank you for writing this and remembering that we are out here.

    1. You are so not alone, Brandi. Happy Mothers Day!!!

  4. Thank you for this article! Even being celebrated because I am the mom and the only parent can be hard since I am the only one. It is entirely bittersweet. I love my son with my whole life, just wish I could show it more without being so tired. Thank you for this…you do understand. Happy Mother’s Day!

    1. 🙂 Happy Mothers Day, Heather!!!

  5. Happy Mothers Day to you too
    Glad to know am not the only one who feels this way. Thanks for writing such a beautiful article.

    1. Happy Mothers Day to you, Roopa!

  6. Hi shwan,
    Thank u for the POST I won’t say I am happy the feelings are global but the pressure used to make me insane., but OK to know I am not alone

  7. This is so beautiful. Thanks so much for this. Gina

  8. Natalie Jewell says:

    Beautifully written. I can so relate. Thank you.

  9. I really needed this.

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