The Incredible Value Of Routine And Consistency For Children With Learning Differences

My first serious boss, at my first serious job, used to repeat it over and over. It was a mantra to try new approaches, to work harder, to get the job done. A few years later, when I was now the serious boss, I used to say the same thing to my team, expecting creativity, diligence and success. The statement has been mis-attributed to Benjamin Franklin, Albert Einstein, and Mark Twain. No doubt, you have heard it before. The definition of insanity is doing the same thing, over and over, and expecting a different result. […]

Homeschool Mom Life: I’m Either Freaked Out Or Checked Out!

Sometimes homeschooling can make even the most experienced of us a little crazy. For example, I find that one of my greatest homeschool mom life difficulties  involves the endless pendulum swing between feeling freaked out about my sons’ education or totally checked out. Let me explain… Another homeschool mom and I were talking about how hard homeschooling has been in 2020. It just has. The loss of easy playdates and field trips. The increased anxiety for my sons (and for me). Even having my husband home all the time has added some pressure as we […]

Sometimes Summer Break Isn’t A Break At All

I remember summer vacations so well. When I was a child, summer break meant eating way too many Popsicles, not having to get up in the morning, swimming for as long as I wanted, impromptu trips to the lake, and absolutely no real plans. The summer break of my youth was glorious. The summer break of my children? Not so much. When we first began homeschooling, I had big plans for the last day of school. We had a party. We took pictures. We discussed all that we had learned that year. It was a […]

What I Wish Someone Had Told Me When My Son Was Diagnosed With Autism

Although it’s been years, it seems like yesterday.  This is what I wish someone had told me when my son was diagnosed with autism.  It’s been eight years since my son received his autism diagnosis.  As I look back at all the progress we’ve made, and how much our life has changed for the better, I am so very grateful. As I look back, I can also see that many of the things we learned, we did so by trial and error. It wasn’t a doctor, or one specific book, or another expert – by […]

Moms Of Children With Differences: It’s Difficult, But It Doesn’t Mean You’re Doing it Wrong

Moms of children with differences often blame themselves when things are hard. The truth is sometimes things are really difficult, but it doesn’t mean you are doing it wrong.  He threw the book and stomped off to his room. “Don’t you understand?” he yelled, clearly frustrated. “I have dys-A-lexia!” As he slammed the door, I tried to sort through all my reactions – smiling because of the way he pronounced dyslexia, bitter because he threw the book and we have been trying to help him work on the explosive responses, sad because reading is so […]

Daylight Saving Time and Children with Special Needs

Daylight saving time and children with special needs do not mix. Here’s why.  It’s that time again. No pun intended. Spring forward. Daylight Saving Time. Or, as we like to call it here in my house, twice yearly crazy time. Changing the time is a big deal around here. Really big. It seems like such a simple thing – it’s only an hour. I have been asked more times than I can count, “What if you just let him sleep an hour later? Should be fine right?” Nope. I wish it was that simple. We […]

When We Blame Parents Of Children With Special Needs

When we blame parents of children with special needs, we lose sight of what parenting is like for all of us. We do the best we can. Sometimes we get it right. Sometimes we don’t, special needs or not.  Since the day my first baby was born, I have felt responsible for my children’s differences. Not responsible in the “I’m the mom so I need to help my child” kind-of way (although I certainly feel that too). Responsible in the “Why do you let him sleep with you instead of in the crib, eat the […]