This is what it’s really like homeschooling through difficult seasons.
I have been thinking about this post for a while now.
I wanted to write it last year, after my son’s hospitalization and subsequent recovery. I wanted to write it when my oldest son’s lupus flared up this summer. I wanted to write it when my husband and I were struggling to be nice to each other earlier this year.
There’s been a lot of “hard” here these past few years. So much so, that the one constant in our lives is often our homeschooling.
It’s like a daily touchstone.
No matter what else is going on, we will learn something together today. (This has been my motto for almost a year now.)
The truth is, difficult circumstances tend to radically change one’s priorities.
When your son’s kidneys are beginning to fail, you tend to worry less about his reading level. When you are worried about your marriage surviving the year, you tend to care less about the math worksheet. When money is tight, a parent is ailing, a child is sick, you’re battling depression, you suffer a miscarriage – when the really hard stuff happens, it becomes so much more clear what really matters.
This clarity can be a breath of fresh air, in our lives, and in our children’s education. I have certainly found it to be a surprise blessing. The hard seasons inform my approach to our homeschooling in a way that simply wasn’t possible before.
When Life Is Hard: Homeschooling through difficult seasons
Less School, More Play
Even now that my children are older, I find that when life is difficult, we all need a little room to laugh and have fun. I am finding that less formal schooling and more “fun” learning actually helps us on tough days more than no learning at all. (Think – Instead of handwriting practice at the table, let’s write on the windows!) Again, my new motto is, “No matter what else is going on, we will learn something together today.” Sometimes this happens on YouTube. Sometimes, it’s on a nature walk. Sometimes, it’s listening to an audiobook in the car on the way to the doctor’s office.
Expectations vs. Reality
What I think learning should look like, and what it actually does, is a source of concern for me – even in the best seasons. My expectations vs. my reality very rarely match-up. Add in a little stress and a whole lotta chaos, and I become my absolute worst homeschooling critic. The only way I have found to combat this, is to imagine my friend in the same circumstances. What would I expect from her? What would I consider to be a job well done if she were facing the same? The truth is, if I would think my friend was doing a great job then maybe, just maybe, I am too.
Just Do It
Lately, the easiest way for me to accomplish anything around here, especially in our homeschool, is to treat it like it’s my job. Sometimes, less choice and less flexibility helps create a little peace. I share all about this new approach in this post HERE. Suffice to say, it’s been a relief to treat our school like a job instead of an all-encompassing lifestyle for a bit.
No matter how difficult the season, it never hurts to have other moms by your side.
Real life advice, experience and perspective is invaluable when I am feeling at my lowest.
I am so grateful to call Kara and Cait true friends and I am honored to share the most recent episode of The Homeschool Sisters Podcast with you. They invited me to join them and answer questions about the really hard stuff and how we deal with it in the midst of this homeschool life.
You can find the podcast episode HERE.
Life happens. One of the things I love most about being able to homeschool, is being able to flex our learning to meet the demands of one season vs. another.
And, even in the most difficult times, I am grateful that my boys are learning and progressing at home.
Shawna Wingert is a former training and development professional turned education specialist, and has homeschooled her two children for the last ten years.Shawna has written four books about homeschooling unique learners and has been featured in homeschooling discussions on Today.com, The Mighty, Simple Homeschool, My Little Poppies and Raising Lifelong Leaners.
You can find her online here at DifferentByDesignLearning.com.